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Tradition, tradition, tradition! In a world where almost anything goes, and heartfelt tradition seems to be fading, if we are not careful we can begin to feel a little less grounded and a lot more up in the air. By making a firm commitment to love, honor and have a lifetime of union with a partner, you can have stability, security and peace of mind in knowing that at home, there can be a sanctuary filled with certainty and love. After all, marriage can be a lifetime of freedom, and an opportunity to share and merge all that you are with another. HOW TO DETERMINE WHO IS RIPE FOR THE PICKINGS… Believe it or not, choosing your mate can be painless and almost stress free if you seriously take into consideration your past stresses from previous relationships. • If you had a previous partner who was habitually late, and his or his lateness caused you any amount of stress in the relationship, make sure promptness is a priority on your list. • If you enjoy receiving unexpected gifts, flowers just because it’s Wednesday, candlelight dinners or breakfast in bed, choose a romantic. Not doing so may cause you to feel neglected, or you may experience feelings of resentment. Also, you must factor in what qualities in a mate are truly important to you. • If you are a conversationalist, the partner you choose must be a good listener, and have the time to do so. • If “you” are not a good listener, your partner must be an independent thinker, compassionate and one of few words. Don’t forget to factor in the true nature of your personality. Be honest with yourself. If you are a piece of work, just go ahead and admit it. • If you have anger management issues, address the problem. Take classes, join support groups or seek counseling. Potential mates will respect and support you for your efforts. • If you want to be the boss, choose a partner who is very flexible, neutral in their thinking, and can easily roll with the punches. The last thing you need to do is select a partner who is by nature similar. This will cause constant butting of the heads. • If you need a twelve step program to help you deal with shopping, you must either (a). Afford your habit or (b). Select a partner who can accommodate you and doesn’t mind the shopping bags. Most importantly you must remember that your personal development work is never done. • As long as you live you must grow or evolve. This holds true for everyone including you. • Remember the golden rule and stick to it like glue. • Make a list of personality traits you can and cannot live with. Stick to the list! • Never compromise your gut instincts. Go with what you sense not with what you see. • Allow other’s to make mistakes. We all make mistakes, and hopefully learn from them. • Dealing with difficult people starts with your ability to accept this truth. “Somewhere someone deems you a difficult person.” Therefore, if you want others to be supportive of your shortcomings, be willing to extend the same courtesies. • If you desire someone to fully accept you for whom and what you are, be willing to do the same for them. You should not expect to get what you are not willing to give… “True independence is the ability to feel and be secure within one’s self while simultaneously sharing the glory of all that you are and can become while allowing another to do the same with and for you. Two can evolve freely and enjoyably into one.”
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